You know how people say “If I could go back and tell my younger self one thing it would be…” and it’s always something profound and life affirming? Well if I could go back and tell my younger self one thing it would be “STOP PLUCKING THE BEJESUS OUT OF YOUR EYEBROWS!”
I think thats sorta profound in its own right, isn’t it? I mean I feel like I turned out ok anyway, and didn’t really need any life affirming help, so maybe if I went back I could stop myself from making bald spots in my damn brows!
Seriously though, I think most girls/women of my generation have this issue. For some reason between 1999 and 2006 it seemed like the most important thing in beauty was to make sure there was nary a stray hair on your face.
While this concept still holds true anywhere below your nose (female beards don’t often come into fashion) it’s kind of a really bad idea when it comes to your eyebrows.
Your eyebrows frame your face. They can offset any extreme face shape, they can lift EVERYTHING up, and thicker brows are a sign of health and youth . . . Do you want to find the person responsible for the plucking trend and beat them up yet?
Let’s not dwell in the past though, it’s over now and we can start working on getting those babies back into fighting form. It’s easy enough but you must follow one rule…
LEAVE THEM ALONE.
That is seriously the one and only rule for growing back your eyebrows, and simple as it may seem it can be hard for us pluck-a-holics. So I will bestow upon you the small tricks that have helped me in my eyebrow journey.
First, let’s asses the damage
I must have been crazy, look how skinny the ends are!
This crappy, makeupless, sunburned webcam photo of me is from about two years ago. I took it to show my mom my new glasses (because they were awesome and still are) and it sparked an epiphany. I was like “ok my glasses look great, but they are really calling attention to those patchy messes above my eyes”.
Please note that I’m not saying anything mean about people who have eyebrows naturally this thin, the fact is I was born with full, thick, dark brows so by over-plucking them I made them patchy and uneven.
Something needed to be done. So I made a vow not to pluck one single hair from my brows for 2 months, and I stuck to it. The results were…not great, so I did it for another two months, and so on and so forth.
Nearly two years have passed and I still consider my brows a work in progress, but now I allow myself to pluck the extremely stray hairs. I have also learned a great deal about filling them in properly, which I will share with you as well.
So what have I learned along the way?
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff. And by small stuff I mean those annoying little brow hairs that you want to pluck so bad. Seriously, nobody else sees them. The only time a stranger will be close enough to notice is on crowded public transportation, and in that scenario nine times out of ten you will NOT be the one with the most jacked up facial hair. I promise.
And your friends and loved ones? You don’t realize this but they aren’t picking apart every centimeter of your face the way you are. They love you as a whole, and see how beautiful you are as a whole as well, so odds are they won’t even notice. Come to think of it I would probably share that little tidbit with my past self as well.
2. Learn to fill them in. Filling them in will help in two ways. It will give you a little taste of how awesome they make your face look when they are fuller, and it will also help to hide some of those stray hairs you were so worried about. Eventually those strays will be a part of your brows as a whole (hopefully)
My current brows before and after filling them.
Filling them in makes a huge difference. I like a big old brow, so I fill mine in a lot but even just a little is helpful.
If you are really clueless as to what shape your brows should be, there is an approximate formula
This doesn’t apply to everyone, nor is it a hard and fast rule, but if you are looking for a general guideline the inner brow should line up with the beginning of the bridge of your nose. If you draw a line from the end of the nose bridge through your outer iris, that is approximately where your arch should be. And if you draw yet another line from the end of the bridge through the other corner of the eye, that is where the tail should stop.
If you like them to line up differently, that’s cool too. But if you have no clue where to start, this should help.
3. Try a growth serum! When I was first starting to grow them I was really impatient, but also really broke. So I picked up this Wet N Wild Mega Lash Serum because it’s really affordable. Did it work? It’s impossible to say because I don’t have anything to compare it to, but it made me feel better! So if nothing else it was a nice placebo effect for five bucks, and it conditioned the hairs and made them behave a little better.
I have heard really really good things about using RapidLash on them. People even say it grew brow hairs where they never existed in the first place. You can find it at CVS, but I recently ordered it through THIS LINK on Amazon because it is a lot cheaper there. I haven’t received mine yet, but I will definitely review it once I have used it for a while.
4. There will come a point where you need to be realistic. Sometimes brows that have been plucked too many times will never come back, and you either have to learn to live with them, or learn to fill them in.
So bottom line…put down the tweezers. I know it’s SO hard but I believe in you. You can break the habit!
I hope this helps, and if you have any tips on how you grew your brows back, let me know in the comments!